It is a command to be submissive to our husbands, it is not optional neither is it debatable.
Someone once told me if I planned to take my tithe to church and my husband says I must not, if I go ahead with the payment of the tithe, he said I have sinned and my tithe might even be rejected because I have disobeyed my head. He said if my husband says I must not go to church, and then I must not go, else, it would amount to a mere waste of time and also I might even end up causing chaos in the family. The brother was like that’s the more reason you need to marry a “correct brother”.
When my husband tells me no church for you today or I have to minister somewhere and he says, woman you’re not stepping out, sincerely I have no choice than to sit down in the house because he is my head and I must obey him.
Now, if I find myself in such situation (God forbid), what should I do? As a single you must pray and watch to get the perfect will of God. Don’t choose by sight for God to forbid bad things as we would always say. If you are married, prayers settles things, you should be ready to pray. Proverbs 21:1 “the King’s heart is in the hand of the Lord, as the rivers of water: he turns it where ever he will”. You just have to continue to pray for him once you find yourself in such situation. God answers prayers and with God there’s nothing impossible.
1 Peter 3: 1-2 says “in the same way wives be in subjection to your own husbands, so that even if any don’t obey the word, they may be won by the behaviour of their wives without a word. Seeing your pure behaviour in fear”
Hmm… I believe this will go a long way. Check your character, your attitudes. Our character can preach to an unbeliever without us opening our mouth to preach at all.
Sisters you can make your man into what you desire of him through your character, the Bible says even “without a word”.
I want you to know that our emphasis here is on submission, but I have seen women both in movies and in reality they are being forced to do things contrary to the will of God…hmm… I pray the Lord will help us as we settle everything in the place of prayer.
Those who are not married yet this will still help us later in life. BUT GO INTO MARRIAGE KNOWING THAT SUBMISSION IS A MUST!
Brothers, it also concerns you. You have a role to play. And it’s very simple, just love your wife. Eph 5:25 says “Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself for it”. So love us, show us care, we love attention so much.
We are not angels you know and occasionally we might just act irrational, please accommodate us. Come down to our level sometimes, OK? Don’t raise your shoulder up at all times because you’re the head.
Finally, always pray for your wife, she needs your prayers. Our marriage will not be hell on earth in Jesus name
Oluwatosin Ibironke, Aare is a graduate of Accounting from The Polytechnic, Ibadan. She is a Christian; she derives pleasure in doing the things of God most especially writing through the help of the Holy Spirit. Oluwatosin loves singing and composes songs by the grace of God.